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forest_pool @ 03:50 am: personality changes
I have severe obstructive sleep apnea and got my CPAP about three months ago.

My ex-fiancee left me in March. I was a very different person then than I was when we met 18 months earlier. I had also gained a bit of weight. I would get in arguments all the time, say mean things and put her down, resort to cynicism, and neglect other friendships because I didn't feel I had the energy for them.

Now I'm trying to put my life back together. It's extremely difficult, when I look back to the last few months of our relationship, to see a person who couldn't have been me, and yet, was me. What went wrong? Can apnea really change your personality like that, lead you to make decisions that you look back upon and wonder how it could have been you? Or is there something else going on?

My ex-fiancee knows very little of how the apnea affected my life, because I didn't understand what it was doing to me at the time, and I wish there was some way I could explain it to her...

Anyone who has feedback to offer on this, or who has experienced something similar, I'd love to hear it.

Thanks. :)

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From:forest_pool
Date:July 31st, 2004 01:13 am (UTC)
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Oh, and I hope you don't mind my posting, as I don't technically fit the description of the community!
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From:elfwench
Date:July 31st, 2004 05:41 am (UTC)
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Not at all... I will send this link to my hubby, the one with the sleep apnea (though we wonder about me sometimes), and let him answer. :) In short, yes, it does affect your personality, but it can and does get better with effective treatment (CPAP in his case). It is because it does affect relationships that I formed this community.

Your brain gets deprived of oxygen and when the frontal and temporal lobes, which affect personality, are affected... well, it's often not a nice thing. Plus, just being exhausted can make anyone a grumpy depressed mess because you're not getting your proper REM sleep.

Look forward to more of your posts here!
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